Testosterone Deficiency

[livingwith]

My story is my husband is not interested in me. Weather it be sexually or not. He would rather spend time up in the bedroom smoking and watching tv and not be with the family. I am very lonely and he says that he is not happy. We have went to counseling and that does not seem to work. My mother’s friend suggested that it might be testosterone deficiency However it is called. My husband has had a quadruple bypass surgery at the age of 38. He is taking medicine for depression and it...Read the full article

[sleuth65]

It sounds like your husband is still experiencing depression. You can google depression and find a list of symptoms and check the ones your husband is exhibiting. Withdrawal from family and needing sleep, irritability, are all standard signs of depression. Lack of sexual desire could be coming from the medicine he is taking for his depression depending on what kind it is. I believe zoloft, prozac, and others like that cause a lack of desire. However, it sounds to me like his medicine is not working if he is still showing signs of depression which you have mentioned. I would suggest he go to a licensed professional counselor who has experience treating people with depression.
I went through this about 3 yrs ago myself. I have suffered bouts of depression for about 2 decades and have been able to be sucessfully treated for it. While in that state however, the person doesn't think normally, which is why you are having a difficult time trying to reason with him. It wasn't until I was treated for it that I was able to reflect back and see how warped my thinking was. My wife was ready for a divorce as well and it finally made me seek help when she told me we were close to the end. I'm not saying try that with your husband but I strongly urge you to get him to seek counseling having someone listen to you without judgement is helpful. Another thing you might try is to see if your husband could try Welbutrin for his depression. It does not affect sex drive and does give some energy-it is a dopamine.
It doesn't sound like your husband has low testosterone but its a simple test to find out. Does your husband work at night or on swing shifts?
Hope this helps, Good Luck!