Testosterone Deficiency

[livingwith]

In our community, we have arranged marriages. My husband has low testosterone and it was extremely hard for me to have such an asexual lover on our honeymoon. He is an amazingly nice person, but even after a few years it is still hard for me as a wife not to be desired. We have sex sporadically, when he is ‘in the mood’, and since he is a puritan, I feel like a whore for even talking to him about this.
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[unclezeek]

I did not have sex on my honeymoon. i can tell you that low testosterone has little to do with low libido. Don't confuse passion, and erotic desire with love. you must do all you can to nurture and maintain physical touch with your husband. Myself , as well as many men suffer with fear of failure which evoves into coldness and apathy. it doesn't mean i don't respect or revere my wife, but ... your husband will eventually equate his aloofness to your faith but in reality it is physical and phsycological walls that are developing now and will continue to grow. Eventually your relationship will be vertually plutonic. That is the sad result of staying with someone or being someone that doesn't know or relish true passion. Very sad for you ,as it is for me, if you wan't to feel your partners desire. Also children often act, as faith does, to inhibit sexual relations both in men as well as women. Either way you may be damning yourself to an eventual life of celibacy. Try not to let this life numb your desire to be physically as well as emotionallty fulfilled.

[RLC]

I can sympathize with your problem. Low testosterone levels can negatively affect a man's self image as 'Maleness' and virility is often tied in some societies with testosterone levels, so getting him to address this is a touchy issue. The medical community does not help matters much as it virtually ignored this issue until recently and even the 'normal' range of testosterone levels (241 - 827) is very large. In my case, my normal is closer to 900 and I did not feel any change at the normal lower level. Testosterone contributes much more to maintaining good health than just enhancing libido. My prostate is back to normal size from being slightly enlarged, I regained muscle mass, lowered my overall cholesterol, my mood improved as did my mental capacity.

One suggestion I can make to get your husband to go see a doctor is to mention the concerns about the other health issues with low testosterone. If he is willing to address these other issues then I think the intimacy part will take care of itself (perhaps with your help in setting the stage). Finding a knowledgeable physician is tough but they are out there. Also, do your research as you are the best advocate for your husbands health. Good luck with it.

[charles50]

have him go to a docter , and have a chromosome Analysis done on him. my be the doctor can hel-p out. try testosterone shots.