Sexually Transmitted Diseases

[kdengo]

I have a question. I have been gay for a least 20 yrs of my life, and I never had a parter with STD Now I am having a relationship with a bi-sexual with genital herpes I don't know how can I have safe sex with her. Is it possible to get it when you are using your fingers? If you dont touch the vagina and only the clitoris, do you stll have to protect your hands? Is it safe to have oral sex with a vagina's condon? If she laid down over me without body fluids am I exposed to the virus? Sounds like even laing down together you can get infected, is that true? She doesn't know too much about it, is new for her, and I am the one that have to be carefull I think. If you know something about it please help me!