Female Sexual Dysfunction

[Babea]

I have been in a loving realationship and the sex is EXCELLENT. I am very turned on by my boyfriend and I love the closeness we share while making love but the problem is not getting excited its the orgasam that I can't get 90% of the time and this makes my boyfriend insecure and left feeling like he can't satisfy me, but this is not the case this has been going on since having my 2 childeren and I don't understand, I am a healthy 25 year old female and I want to know: What can I do to change this. Is there something wrong with me? Please Help!!!!!!

[njwhite]

Hi Babea,

When you say you can't orgasm, do you mean by intercourse, foreplay or at all? Most women can not orgasm just from intercourse. We need clitoral stimulation from something like a hand or vibrator.

If you can't orgasm at all with him, can you orgasm by masturbating? I think we need to learn to orgasm by masturbation. Then you know what it is that gets you over the edge.

If it's just from intercourse, then try using your hand or vibrator at the same time. I almost never orgasm from intercourse. My theory is I don't care how I orgasm, just that I orgasm. I'll take it anyway I can get it!

Good luck!