Erectile Dysfunction

[BJD]

I'm 56 and haveED I have the most beatiful lady that I share my life with, the proble is my condition and even though she informs me that sex is not that important to her, I see it on her face the hurt and I feel so ashamed, we tried last night and that was a total faliure, I just don't know what to do?
I'm thinking of leaving her so she may get a life, she is 47 and beatiful tall and blond, she also has a heart of gold, I love her so much that I keep telling myself that I'm doing this for her? I don't know what to do at this point? Is there any one that is going throught the same feelings?? Please help!

[Piano]

You mentioned in your other post that you are seeing a urologist on Monday -- a good step. If you have had back surgery, it is possible that the nerves that control your erection have been damaged. If so, you are in a similar position to those of us who have had prostate surgery -- nerves are damaged or cut, and if they regenerate, it can take two or three years.

In the meantime, there are treatments you can use:

1. Direct penile injections -- these will give you good erections without needing the nerve connections. These are scary at first, but you get used to them and you can't argue with the results!

2. VED (pump) -- less invasive, but I find it not as good as injections -- but still good for "exercise".

Both of these treatments depend on your having a good blood supply to the penis. If you don't, it is still possible that regular use of both can encourage and improve the blood flow. Your urologist will have a much better idea of the treatment that is most likely to work for you.

Having lost my nerves, I have total ED -- no amount of stimulation will get me up. But with these aids I can still have a very satisfactory sex-life, although not as spontaneous as the real thing.

Seems like you have a supportive and loving partner -- hang on to her! If she says that sex is not that important to her, believe her! Women like romance, cuddles, and affection -- you can still provide her with all of those. If she needs sexual satisfaction as well you can provide that too, orally or manually -- and for her it can be every bit as exciting as penile penetration. Let her know that even with no erection, you still find her very attractive.

Erections are a guy thing, and much less important to a woman. You have a lot to be thankful for. Gorgeous blonde on tap? If you throw her out, throw her my way. Ooops, on second thoughts better not -- I'm already married :-)

Good luck for Monday, and keep us posted on what happens.

[BJD]

Thank you so much for the comment, I just fond myself so alone and can't really discuss this with a family member or friends. I'm going to check with the doctor on Monday, again thank you for the support