Erectile Dysfunction

[Tear04]

Hello Im new here I am posting for my Husband who is currently at work. He has a Problem w/ keeping a Erection during sex and sometimes possibly even getting one. During Foreplay it can take upwards of 1-hr to get him remotely close to a erection when used to about a yr ago take 5 mins. From the transition to intercourse he looses his Erection and goes limp and have to start all over. When he finally gets another Erection and inserts it after bout 20 mins he looses it again and cannot Ejaculate it is very discouraging for him. I hate to see him go thru so much at a young age I am 22 and he is 26 we have 4 wonderful children and I dont want to see our Sex life go down cause of this. What is ur recommendation to do or idea We have no insurance and cannot see a doctor;;

He doesnt Drink Doesnt Smoke he works as a Rural Carrier / Meat stocker.. We dont hardly argue
And our Sex life isnt demanding maybe once a week Even when we dont have sex for almost a Mth he cannot ever get it up or keep it up. Makeing out doesnt really work Masterbaiting he cannot even get it hard for that..

[Piano]

There are four components to an erection:
* Libido -- is he interested in sex?
* Nerve function -- allows the brain and spine to control the erection
* Blood supply -- getting it up
* Blood retention -- keeping it up

A healthy, heart-friendly life style is also good for the penis -- diet and exercise. If he needs to lose weight, he should do so. You said he is not a smoker or a drinker, so he should of course continue along that path. No drugs either.

Kegel (pelvic floor) exercises work for guys too. My urology nurse told me they were as good as Viagra, and I saw a news item on the web recently saying the same thing. A lot cheaper too!

There is the stress situation too -- four young children (as you probably know!) can be stressful. Might he be worried about another pregnancy?

Maybe you can schedule a hot date, just for cuddles. Stress that you want nothing more than that -- that should remove any pressure to perform. It is of course possible for a guy to completely satisfy a woman without actual penetration -- perhaps you could let him know that too -- if he doesn't know it already! If he can penetrate, even if not fully erect, it is possible still to have a very pleasant time without orgasm -- as I am finding out first-hand for myself.

If the self-help measures don't work, be aware that there are medical conditions that can effect erections, such as diabetes, high blood pressure and depression. Maybe you could get hubby to the doctor just for "a checkup", and persuade him to mention, in passing, his erectile problems. Sure he may be embarrassed, but the doctor will have seen it all before.

There are medical and mechanical aids that might help too, but it's best to start with the simple and cheap things first. Hope something in that ramble helps :-)